Mum’s the word

26 Apr

They say a girl’s best friend is her mother. Mine died 25 years ago and even today she is my best friend. Soft spoken, affectionate, sagacious, full of grace… my mum. She didn’t live long but managed to teach me so much. I was young and naive and never got the full impact of her words but as I go through life her words come back to me. She had prepared me with her advice ‘cos she knew she wouldn’t be around when I was really battling life and trying to stay afloat.

  1. Take every challenge as an opportunity to become a better person.
  2. You are one of a kind. God’s masterpiece. Keep yourself carefully.
  3. Eat healthy, sleep well, exercise for a healthy body houses a healthy mind – no matter how short it is.
  4. Self worth – don’t make someone your priority when you are just an option to them.
  5. God gave you two ears and mouth with the intention that you listen more than you speak.
  6. Keep your mind open. Don’t jump to conclusions without hearing the whole story.
  7. Every person is struggling with issues. Listen, learn and accept.
  8. The true grit of a person is known by the grace with which he accepts a challenge.
  9. Learn to spend time with yourself everyday. Quietly listen to your inner self. You can learn a lot from yourself.
  10. Understand the difference between loneliness and solitude.
  11. Have fun… but never at the cost of your duties.
  12. Every person needs to be respected irrespective of their age or stature in your life.
  13. Suno sabki, karo mannki, afford everyone the courtesy of an opinion but always trust your own judgement.
  14. Diplomacy, diplomacy, diplomacy.
  15. In an argument, don’t think what you are going to say next, anticipate the other person’s argument.
  16. Never be afraid of apologising… we all make mistakes. Accept an apology with the same grace that you would expect others to accept yours.

I think of her everyday and what she might have said in any situation. How she would have asked me to deal with it. What she would have asked me to say, as a mum, a wife, a friend… So many of her words stand out as I reminisce. An intelligent mind, a talent beyond compare and a heart of compassion, she was unparalleled and will always be. Its all about living life to the max… and when it comes to life lived to its fullest with poise, grace & love…. my Mum’s the word.

My sister has sung one of her favourite songs which I am posting here. RIP mum for your little girl is well…


Posted by on April 26, 2012 in Higgledy-piggledy


2 responses to “Mum’s the word

  1. Maloo

    April 28, 2012 at 8:27 am

    So very right about Maitreyi aunty. She was an incredible woman and a great role model for all of us.

  2. Viswanath Iyer

    May 13, 2012 at 4:51 pm

    Well for me Amma was special. My grandfathergave her a lovely name ‘Arundhathi’. She was there for everything in my life till I left Bombay to come ‘Down Under’.

    During my school days she taught me to read Sanskrit well, lots of small prayers and some wonderful lessons using Shubhashitani. Here is one of them .

    narasyaabharanam roopam, roopasyaabharanam gunaha
    gunasyaabharanam gnanam, gnanasyaabharanam kshama

    Appearance is the ornament of a human, character is the ornament of that appearance. Knowledge is the ornament of that character and the ability to have compassion, mercy and a spirit to forgive is the ornamnent of that knowledge.

    Today I live far away from her. At 84, she is active. But she is there for many in the society to teach the Geetha, Narayaneyam and Bhaghavatham.


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